The Roles of Husband and Wife in the Married Life
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” Ephesians 5:22-25
“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.” 1 Timothy 5:14
We must believe that God’s word is the best for us, and not think that we know better how to manage family life. We have many examples of families of believers that can testify about the blessing that they saw when they obeyed the principles that appear in the word of God. If we are not ready to submit to God’s word, we will miss out on the blessing that God wants to bestow upon us.
God gave the husband the role and the responsibility to lead the family, and thus the wife needs to accept the authority that God has given to her husband over her. When the woman understands this, she will think twice about whom she wants to marry, and to whom she is ready to submit.
Yet this does not mean that the husband should be a tyrant, who is inconsiderate about the thoughts or opinions of his wife, but rather that at the end he is the one who must make the final decisions.
It could be said that the husband has received from God a more difficult role, and that is, to love his wife. Why do I say that this is a harder role? Because the man is called upon to give up his own desires, and at times his own needs, in self-sacrifice, for his wife’s sake. This involves self-denial out of love: it is a demonstration of the husband’s love for his wife, in that he is willing to die for her as Christ died for the church. We are talking about things that pertain to everyday life, which the husband has to give up for his wife, and thus show her that he loves her. A simple example would be a husband who loves watching soccer games on TV, and is ready to give this up in order to spend time with his wife, because she is more important to him than soccer.
To conclude, the responsibility is placed upon the husband to care for all his wife’s needs, while he gives up on his own desires, and the wife must accept the authority which God has given to her husband over her. I believe with all my heart that every couple that will obey this principle will enjoy God’s blessing, and a happy family life.